We all know that our Self Confidence plays a huge role in our everyday lives, Unfortunately some of us are lacking in that department.
I use to be one of those, I would never have the confidence to speak my mind, ask a question during a meeting for being scared i was going to be laughed at, I didn’t have the confidence to wear that little black dress to an event, That bright red lipstick or even the confidence to walk up and someone and start a conversation.
All that changed with age tough, I noticed the older I got the more bold I was with my decisions, something I wished I had embodied in my younger years.
How to bring forth self confidence.
We know that those who are self confident just naturally effect the people around them in a positive way, They embody their own inner worth and beam with confidence where ever they go.
With that being said confident women do not have a mystery that you are missing out on, You can embody the same self confidence just by know what they key factors are.
1st Embrace Failure
Fear of failure prevents so many people from taking on opportunities or risks.
Confident women are always looking for opportunities to push themselves, They know that embracing their failures and shortcomings, Instead of giving up they take it as a lesson and keep confidently pushing forward and pursing their goals. Bottom line, They know that failure will take then further.
2nd Have A Plan\Plan Ahead
Not only do confident women have ambitions and goals, they also have steps to achieve them. Confident Women take action in life with what they want and always have a plan to get there.
Creating a Great plan for something and executing it will ensure you reach your goals which creates even more confidence. Kind of a win win ya know.
Your extra planning will give you that inner self-confidence you need to help you achieve any ambitions you have set out for yourself.
3rd Act As If
Confident women have learned to act as if, in other words act as if it already is or you already are. Dress, walk, speak as if you already are the confident go getter women you so desire to be.
The principle was first written over 100 years ago by a man named William Jones, He outlined that anyone can create an inner motivation by simply acting as if, especially by those reluctant to do certain things.
Encourage yourself to do more, lead with higher self-esteem and bring forth that amazing inner self-confidence you know is in you by simply acting as if.
This one has truly worked for me, I watched all of the confident women who are crushing all of their goals, how they walked, talked, dressed, their work ethic, how they ate and how they worked out, I started applying those things in my life and seen a big difference.
4. Learn to Communicate Effectively
This is where I struggled to be honest, I never was one to start a conversation or even join in, I was always the bystander nodding my head and politely agreeing for sake of argument. They Past year has been like someone flicked a switch in my head and I am the complete opposite now.
The ability to connect with others is an ability everyone should learn. Confident women are able to communicate effectively in almost any scenario they find themselves in.
They can comfortably cope with most social situations, primarily because they are interested in learning more about a verity of different topics and aren’t afraid to confidently conduct the discussion at hand.
Part of communicating is also to listen, Confident people actively listen by giving you their complete and full attention, instead of waiting until it is their turn to speak.
5. Do Not Be An Attention Seeker
Women with the most confidence are master of attention awareness. If attention is given to their achievements they simply accept the thanks and carry on.
They do not need affirmation because they already have the self-worth they need within themselves.
Not seeking attention is a great way of knowing your self-worth and not letting others determine your self-worth.
If you do feel your self seeking attention to make yourself feel good, ask yourself these questions…
- What are you benefiting from it?
- Why are other peoples opinions important to you?
A lot of the times the praise we need is often what we need to hear from ourselves!
So instead of waiting for someone to tell you good job or you got this, tell yourself that you know you got this because you are a bad ass queen and deserve the best!
6. Over Come Self Doubt
Self-doubt means you don’t trust yourself to handle any kind of success, It comes as a inner negative voice that hinders your progress, it can be a feeling of inadequacy that can derail your confidence.
You need to learn how to overcome self-doubt.
A. No matter how hard or demoralized it might be, do not stop moving, keep on trying until you reach your goal. Throwing in the towel before the end of the race will destroy your confidence. So Push with everything you have. Confident women do not give up easily, they push for results.
B. Everyone has a inner voice, what set you apart as far as being a confident women is the way they respond to that inner voice.
Jennifer Lopez once said ” Doubt is a killer, You just have to know who you are and what you stand for.”
Turn “I Can’t” into “I Can”… Self Doubt is self made. Try believing you can and you will be amazed how much you can achieve, with the right attitude of “I Can” You’ll be unstoppable and have the confidence to tackle any situation that arises.
7. Know Your Limits
Because confident women know themselves so well, they also know their limits. They Know when they have too much on their plate and need to ask for help. They are not afraid to ask for help when it is needed.
Confident women also know how to say NO. They are aware when they are not able to do their best work for someone or when saying yes may compromise her own values or priorities.
Strong confident women do not need to be people pleasers in order to feel validated or worthy, She makes decisions on her own terms without compromising herself.
8. Avoid Procrastination
That big task you keep putting off you need to just get it done. Procrastinating will drain your energy, make you feel helpless and undisciplined.
It prevents you from reaching your true potential and becoming the strong women you envision yourself to be.
The hardest part of any task is just getting started. Take a small, first step to get the ball rolling and you will see that the momentum carries you the rest of the way. taking that 1st step also gives you a huge confidence boost.
9. Practice Self Care
Take care of you! Exercise, rest, and eat Healthy. If you don’t (take) care for your body, how could your body take care of you? Or why should it, for that matter! Are you surprised that if you don’t put fuel in your car, it will malfunction one day? You can’t ask your body to do more than you put into it. So exercise to make your body strong, rest so it can process all the daily activities and recharge at the same time and be mindful of the food you put into your body.
Know what you need to make this precious time with yourself the best time. There is nothing sexier than a woman who adores her own company. Take time for paint your nails, a good bath, a vanilla shower, an amazing meal, music that will calm you, a book that will inspire you, These are amazing moment that you can spend just with yourself.
Final Thoughts
Think About your progress, where you are coming from and where you are going. Once you realize the extent of your progress and the life strides you have made, Your self doubt wile cease to exist.
If after reading this you feel that you are lacking in some areas don’t let that get you feeling down.
Confidence is a journey. No one wakes up being confident overnight.
Accept yourself and work on the areas that you need to.
Every woman can achieve confidence as long as she is willing to work at it. We all have baggage that weighs us down. Perhaps now is the time to simply let go of it and be you.
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